How to Detangle Curly Hair

Detangling hair can be a source of stress and frustration when dealing with curly, multiracial children’s hair. Especially when not done right. So what is the best way to do it to get the knots out, protect their delicate hair, and to avoid tears?

Detangling Curly Hair by The Mixed Mama Blog for Multiracial Media Multiracial Childrens Hair Care Column _ PIN ME

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How to Detangle Curly Hair

  1. Get the hair wet. Dry, curly hair breaks more so you want to first add some water. This can be easily done with a spray bottle filled with water. You get a simple one for cheap or if you want to be serious about your detangling (and refreshing) get this continuous, fine mist spray one. If you are doing the detangling on wash day then after you rinse the shampoo out… move to the next step.                       Continuous Fine Mist Spray Bottle
  2. Next coat the hair with some sort of conditioner with good slip. If you are doing this on wash day… then honestly I would just recommend using an inexpensive Suave Conditioner. This is because depending on how long your kids hair is….you will need a lot! If you are just refreshing / detangling the curls during the week then use something that is a step up from Suave (even though its still actually really good for curly hair). TRESemme is a good option, as is Many Ethnicities, CurlyKids, or Cantu Care for Kids. Detangling Curly Hair by The Mixed Mama Blog _ Suave Conditioner
  3. Divide the hair up into sections. I would say minimally 4. So in half from ear to ear then half from middle of forehead to nape of the neck. Keep the sections you aren’t detangling out of the way by using clips or no damage ponies.
    How to Detangle Curly Hair _ Divided Sections

    (Her hair was already divided before we added the water/conditioner)

  4. Take one section at a time and hold the hair in your hand above where you are going to comb. This is to prevent pulling the hair at the root of the hair. This is very important to avoid as much breakage as possible. How to Detangle Curly Hair_Holding above comb
  5. Using a wide tooth comb start at the bottom of the hair to detangle. Once that part is detangled, move up closer to the root. All while still holding the hair above where you are combing. Continue this step until you reach the scalp and that section is completely detangled. If you are doing this in the bath I recommend this shower comb as it has a handle to hang it up so you don’t lose it in the tub and to help hook it to your wet, slippery hands.                        Detangling Curly Hair by The Mixed Mama Blog _ combing hair
  6. Braid up the section you have detangled. Repeat Step 4 & 5 until you finish all the sections.
  7. When all the hair is detangled take the braids out. If in the tub rinse out that conditioner. Coat the hair in a leave-in conditioner. Right now we are loving the Many Ethnicities Leave-In Conditioner that I recently reviewed. The CurlyKids Crème Conditioner as well as the Cantu Care for Kids Curling Crème are also great and are household favorites! If you are refreshing/detangling throughout the week you can still add some of these in, just use a lot less. Many Ethnicities Hair Care Line Review by The Mixed Mama Blog
  8. Comb these products throughout the hair now that it is detangled. Add an oil to the hair to seal in the moisture. Comb this through as well. Some oil options that you can use are listed in my Top 10 Hair Oils post. You will have to play around with the amount to use until you figure out what works best to avoid the hair looking greasy, but rather just soft and moisturized.                   20170803_202444

So that’s its! How to properly detangle curly kids hair. When done you can then put your kids hair into a protective style like this one (or this one) or you can leave it wild and free!

My Daughter _ Mixed Kid _ Curly Hair _ On Graduation

Disclaimer- I am not a professional… this is just what I’ve learned through research and trial & error. We are always learning and I am not afraid to admit if I am wrong and made a mistake. It’s ok if you do too. We, as parents, aren’t perfect. That’s ok. As long as we try as hard as we can for our children.

What are your favorite products to use when you detangle? Any favorite hair oil or conditioner? Let me know down in the comments!

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Thanks for reading and see you next week!


Hi, My name is Nicholette, and I am the mom behind “Mixed Family Life.” Hair care can be a cultural barrier, so how does one do the hair of multiracial children? As the white mother of two mixed kids, I felt it was my responsibility to learn how to properly care for their hair. This personal pursuit led me to share what I’ve learned through my blog where I provide tips, tricks, and product reviews so that other interracial parents don’t have to make the same mistakes I’ve made. I also share stories, anecdotes, and lessons learned through parenting. Join me in our goofy adventures and learn some hair tips along the way.

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Published on: August 16, 2017

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